 Rich pauses during a leisurely meander around Huelva to wonder if it's time for lunch yet. Is it possible to go overboard with de-stressing? Oh, yes. Just look at Englishman Jeremiah Carlton, who in 1720 turned 19, inherited a vast fortune, and decided to spend the rest of his life in bed. He employed servants to give him sponge baths, spoon-feed him meals, and bring him stacks and stacks of books. He spent his days reading and napping until he died, at 89, in his sleep. Seventy years of hibernation seems a bit much, but I can see the appeal. In these jittery times, who hasn’t been tempted to crawl into bed and pull the covers over their head for the duration? But few of us have the money or the metabolism to become the next Jeremiah Carlton, known for 300 years as the World’s Laziest Man. On the other hand, I can see the value of — how can I put this? — making an effort to make less of an effort. Giving myself permission to do less. Taking time off from the headlong rush of daily activities. The Italians call it il dolce far niente, the sweetness of doing nothing. They embrace such simple pleasures as sitting in a sidewalk café watching the world go by.  While sitting at a sidewalk café in Palermo, Italy, watching to world go by, Rich samples the local breakfast special: brioche stuffed with ice cream. How sweet it is! In France, nineteenth-century poets coined the term flâneur for the artists and sophisticates strolling about Paris savoring the city as a work of art. To maintain a leisurely pace, flâneurs were said to amble about with a pet turtle on a leash. Naysayers have challenged this as une légende urbaine (urban legend) but I like to believe it’s true. I know it’s possible; just look at all the oddball pets people take into the streets. I’d always felt faintly surprised and slightly impoverished that the English language didn’t express an equivalent concept. And then, to my delight, this week my friend and fellow blogger Jackie wrote about “pootling,” a 20th century British term that means to move slowly, without any real purpose. It’s a variant of the 1930s verb “to poodle,” a blend of “potter” (to move aimlessly) and “tootle” (to meander). Apparently actual poodles are optional to the practice. It’s not surprising the term didn’t arise in America, as we do not generally favor such lackadaisical pastimes. Our sports are extreme, our cars are turbocharged, and all our children are expected to be above average. We’re raised on stories of people with extra get-up-and-go who worked hard and prospered mightily: Levi Strauss, Ariana Huffington, Joseph Pulitzer, Isabel Allende, Arnold Schwarzenegger, and so many other immigrants who redefined the upper limits of American exceptionalism. As for us mere mortals, we arrange our lives around more modest goals. One of mine is traveling with a purpose, finding a narrative that gives direction and meaning to my trips, blog posts, and books. Pootling is vital to my process; I have spent countless contented hours moseying up and down back streets and grand boulevards, inviting them to surprise me. They always do. Of course, I use my common sense. There are plenty of neighborhoods that are best avoided by the savvy traveler. Rich uses an app called GeoSure to check the safety ratings of unfamiliar territory. And we keep alert. If we see someone shooting up drugs, directing traffic in the middle of the street with no pants on, or running towards us shouting about the End Times, we remove ourselves from the scene with all due haste. But on most occasions, we ramble about quite comfortably, enjoying whatever beguiling sights surround us. I particularly like to check out the street art, which gets more wildly creative all the time. I haven’t seen the masterpieces shown below, but they’re on my list. One of the most delightful rewards of footloose rambling is stumbling upon obscure eateries you won’t find on Yelp or TripAdvisor. Here it’s important to use what Rich calls your “sniffer”— a combination of olfactory skills (“Mmmmm, that smells fantastic” is a good start) and your sixth sense about the atmosphere, staff, and patrons. Occasionally we settle at a table and then have second thoughts. Maybe the prices make us gasp, or we find there’s a fixed menu for a feast that’s beyond the scope of our appetites. I never want to insult the hospitality of our hosts by flinging down the menu and walking out, so I’ve worked out a tactful way to extricate ourselves. I pull out my phone, look at the screen and give a start, as if I’ve received an alarming message. I show the screen to Rich, and we exclaim, “I can’t believe it,” and “Yes, we have to go. What a pity!” We apologize (in sign language, if necessary) and slip out the door. But most of the time, we stay and take our chances, trusting our sniffers. We’re rarely disappointed. Last night, after our sniffers had led us to a cozy new wine bar in Seville, Rich and I fell to talking about the meaning of life (wine does that to me) and he brought up one of my all-time favorite quotes. It's from Joseph Campbell, a scholar who studied the world’s mythology to discover common themes that help us understand what it means to be human. He wrote: “People say that what we’re all seeking is the meaning of life. I don’t think that’s what we’re really seeking. I think that what we’re seeking is an experience of being alive, so that our life experiences on the purely physical plane will have resonances with our own innermost being and reality, so that we actually feel the rapture of being alive.” To feel that rapture, to find the alignment between our innermost selves and outer reality, we have to pay attention to the world. And that’s a lot harder if we’re always dashing from one activity to another.  Now, I know what you’re thinking: Do I really want to pay more attention to the world right now? Good point! It’s only February and I’ve already had about as much of 2026 as I can take. I feel, as late night host Jimmy Kimmel put it, like I’m in the movie Speed, hurtling along in the back of a bus that’s wired to explode if it slows down. But we can slow down. In fact, we can get off the bus and wander around in a more congenial environment. For some of us that means relocating to Home 2.0. But wherever we are, it's about dragging our eyes away from the headlines and turning our attention to the things we find around us. The Japanese call it shinrin-yoku, forest bathing. Indigenous peoples in the Americas head to sweat lodges for revitalizing temazcal rituals. The Spanish luxuriate every day in siestas. The Norwegians practice friluftsliv, embracing nature in all weathers. And now, at last, we English-speakers can indulge in pootling whenever and wherever our whimsy takes us. “Your sacred space,” said Joseph Cambell, “is where you can find yourself again and again.” And luckily for us, there is sacred space all around, just waiting for us to discover it.  HOME 2.0 This is the latest in my series of blog posts exploring what it takes to create a better life for yourself abroad — or at home, for that matter. See all posts in this series. WANT MORE? To subscribe, send me an email. [email protected] SUBSCRIBED BUT NOT GETTING POST ANNOUNCEMENTS? Check your spam folder. If you still can't find it, please let me know. GOING SOMEWHERE? Enter any destination or topic, such as packing light or road food, in the search box below. If I've written about it, you'll find it.  On a beach in southern Spain, a man who never existed turned the tide of war. Graphic: Detail from the original cover of The Man Who Never Was “You don’t want to go there,” a Spanish friend told me. “There’s nothing to see.” “Intercity tickets?” The clerk at the railway office repeated my words warily, as if I’d asked to be strapped to the top of a locomotive for a trip through Siberia. In winter. Naked. “Are the trains running?” I asked. There had been massive disruption of service following the recent tragic accidents near Córdoba and Barcelona, but I wanted to travel west, away from those areas. “Yes, trains are running.” Long pause. “I could sell you tickets." Longer pause. "But with the bus, you will have fewer delays, fewer cancellations; you will get there much quicker. Take the bus.” Which is how Rich and I found ourselves spending Friday morning jammed into the cramped seats of an intercity autobús, lurching over 55 miles of potholes on our way to the Spanish seacoast town of Huelva.  OK, so Huelva isn't as picturesque as my Home 2.0, Seville. On the upside, our room in this hotel cost just $67.50 a night. We were there to visit the grave of The Man Who Never Was. Fans of the book and movie Operation Mincemeat will recall that in 1943, the British were desperate to mislead the Nazis about the location of the upcoming invasion. “If the enemy is waiting for us on those beaches,” Churchill warned, “History herself will avert her eyes from the slaughter.” British Intelligence came up with a daring, high-risk ruse that required dressing a corpse as a British military officer, giving him false invasion plans, and slipping his body into the sea. They calculated the body would wash ashore somewhere around Huelva, where the area’s active network of Nazi spies would, with luck, manage to steal the papers from the Spanish authorities, copy them, and send the misinformation to Berlin, where it just might fool Hitler. What could possibly go wrong?  Naval officers sliding "Major William Martin" into the sea off the coast of Huelva in 1943. Yes, I know it sounds like the plot of a lurid spy novel, and no wonder; the concept sprang from a memo drafted by Ian Fleming, a young Navy officer serving under Rear Admiral Godfrey. The deception worked so well that for weeks after the invasion, the Germans remained convinced the landing was a feint and the real assault was still to come. Thousands of Allied lives were saved, and — spoiler alert! — we went on to win the war. In 1953 one of the plot's leaders, Ewen Montagu, spent a weekend dashing off a history of his team’s exploits; his book, The Man Who Never Was, sold two million copies. Montagu never revealed the true identity of the corpse, which was laid to rest in Huelva’s Soledad Cemetery under his false identity, Major William Martin.  "Major William Martin" is interred in Huelva's Soledad Cemetery with full military honors. Then in 1996, amateur historian Roger Morgan turned up evidence that the body was Glyndwr Michael, a Welshman down on his luck in London, who’d died from eating rat poison. His name eventually went on the tombstone. Rich and I decided to go pay our respects and incidentally discover for ourselves whether Huelva was as underwhelming as everyone said. Huelva’s bus station did nothing to dispel its lackluster reputation. It was vast and empty, with flickering lights and cracked flooring. Our hotel, a short walk away in a cluster of slightly shabby high-rises, had a façade so self-effacing we had a hard time finding it, even when we were standing on the doorstep. But the staff welcomed us warmly, and our room was great: big, clean, comfortable, entirely bed-bug-free, and — as Rich frequently pointed out — just €57 ($67.50) a night. It was one of the top hotels in town.  The staff called a taxi to take us to the cemetery, and our driver, Adriano, turned out to be a knowledgeable and engaging onubense (as locals are called, from the old Phoenician name for Huelva). He was proud of his city and immediately began filling us in on what had been happening around there for the past few thousand years. He explained that Huelva sits between two rivers, the beautiful Odiel and the Tinto, one of the most toxic bodies of water on the planet. A hundred kilometers upstream lie the oldest mines in the world; humans have been working them for 5000 years, since the days when metal was extracted using a rock lashed to a stick.  The Museum of Huelva's outstanding archeological collection demonstrates how they did it back in the day. In 1874, a British firm bought the Rio Tinto mines and made Huelva their base of operations, building a clever railway and pier system. In their spare time they taught locals the game Americans call soccer and launched Spain's oldest football club, Recreativo de Huelva. A century ago they built Barrio Queen Victoria, a cluster of disconcertingly English-looking houses on a hill near our hotel. And a few years back, some long-term British residents formed a society to maintain the grave and the memory of “Major William Martin.” Arriving at the cemetery, Adriano jumped out and escorted us to the famous tomb. We all stood for a moment over the body of the man who had helped save an earlier generation from Nazis and fascists bent on world domination. I silently thanked Glyndwr Michael for his service and thought of those who have lost their lives in a similar cause in modern times.  Adriano helpfully adjusts the Welsh flag on Glyndwr Michael's grave, which now includes Michael's true name, his parents' names, and a large inscription about The Man Who Never Was, courtesy of the Major William Martin Association. Rich and I spent two days in Huelva strolling around visiting sights Adriano had mentioned and sampling local bistros. The best meal of the trip — possibly of our lives, we agreed — was our post-cemetery lunch at Zancoli. All the tables were reserved but they kindly managed to squeeze us in at a miniscule table behind a pillar. The bullia — convivial noise — washed over us like a blessing. We ordered a lovely local wine and were given an amuse-bouche of gorgeous little sausages called chosco de tineo made from (and thankfully I did not know this at the time) a mix of pork and tongue, seasoned with garlic and paprika, stuffed into pig intestines, and smoked over a wood fire. There followed a dazzling plate of artichokes with ham and shrimp, and fresh-from-the-sea merluza (similar to American hake or whiting) baked in wine sauce. As you can imagine, we slept well at siesta. Huelva is a great place to take siestas, because — as Adriano pointed out — it is tranquilo. Tranquil. By Friday lunchtime, the restaurants were filled with large congenial groups, seemingly ready to let go of the cares of the week and relax into the weekend. By Saturday afternoon, everyone was strolling lazily in the sun or lifting a cold beer in a warm circle of laughing friends. It was like a poster for Life As It Is Meant To Be Lived. Whenever someone tells me “you don’t want to go there,” the contrary part of my nature senses adventure and starts reaching for maps and train schedules. “There are deeper reasons to travel — itches and tickles on the underbelly of the unconscious mind,” wrote author Jeff Greenwald. “We go where we need to go, and then try to figure out what we’re doing there.” Words to live and travel by.  One place I'm not itching to go: the Rio Tinto, near the mines, photographed in all its technicolor pollution by blogger Caracol Viajero. HOME 2.0 This is the latest in my series of blog posts exploring what it takes to create a better life for yourself abroad — or at home, for that matter. See all posts in this series. WANT MORE? To subscribe, send me an email. [email protected] SUBSCRIBED BUT NOT GETTING POST ANNOUNCEMENTS? Check your spam folder. If you still can't find it, please let me know. GOING SOMEWHERE? Enter any destination or topic, such as packing light or road food, in the search box below. If I've written about it, you'll find it.  An arctic weasel performing the manic moves known as the Weasel War Dance. Who acts completely crazy on purpose? Weasels, for one! If they spot a rabbit they'd like for lunch, they'll suddenly start acting like lunatics, leaping in the air, rolling around on the ground, and doing backflips. The bunnies are so stunned at this peculiar display they stop and stare until the weasel works their way close enough to pounce. I think we can all sympathize with those bunnies about now. This past weekend, the world seemed to go mad before our eyes, pouncing on a law-abiding citizen as if he were lawful prey. Throughout a shocked nation, citizens are voicing a new sense of purpose, vowing to put an end to the madness. Purpose, which can give direction and meaning to our lives, comes in two types, according to psychologist Rob Archer. There's self-related, which is focused on personal goals such as earning money and getting ahead, and what he calls transcendent, defined as broader, more outward looking, and contributing, however modestly, to making the world a better place.  Whenever I feel gloomy about the state of the world, I go stand in front of this mural in my California town and feel grateful to my public-spirited neighbors for installing it across from the park. We are all hard-wired to pursue self-related interests, such as finding work and surviving our first day on a new job. The other night, seeking some lighthearted entertainment as a break from the news, I came upon a British comedy about a rookie animal control warden sent to remove a wild weasel from someone's attic. And before I write another word, let me assure you the weasel is FINE. So the rookie sticks his head through the trap door into the attic, the weasel jumps him, and the two tumble down the steps into the living room. The panicked animal runs into the fireplace and moments later runs out again — with his tail on fire. You can guess the rest. The ottoman, couch, and a large throw pillow go up in flames. After considerable pandemonium, the rookie smothers the blazing furniture and the room in fire retardant chemicals. The door opens, and the weasel — tail extinguished — races outside. The rookie’s supervisor steps in, looks at the homeowners, and says, “On a scale from 1 to 10, how would you rate our service today?”  In the sit-com Animal Control, Michael Rowland's character faces off with a formidable weasel. This is a handy reminder, as if another were needed, of the wisdom of Robert Burns’ famous line, "The best-laid schemes o' Mice an' Men / Gang aft agley" ("often go awry”). Clearly that adage applies to the plans of weasels, too. I imagine this little fellow down at the pub afterwards, telling his mates, “I was just browsing around for dogfood or cookies, and it morphed into a scene from Stranger Things!”  Giant monsters and flaming hellscapes abound in the Netflix series Stranger Things. No matter how often our efforts spiral into disaster, we all continue to hatch schemes in aid of some purpose we hold dear. The internet is awash with articles such as The Importance of Living a Purpose-Driven Life, reminding us that purpose can fill us with energy, give our lives meaning, and offer a staggering array of health benefits. “Imagine a drug,” wrote Professor Victor Strecher, author of Life on Purpose, “that was shown to add years to your life; reduce the risk of heart attack and stroke; cut your risk of Alzheimer’s disease by more than half; help you relax during the day and sleep better at night; double your chances of staying drug- and alcohol-free after treatment; activate your natural killer cells; diminish your inflammatory cells; increase your good cholesterol; and repair your DNA. What if this imaginary drug reduced hospital stays so much that it put a dent in the national health-care crisis? Oh, and as a bonus, gave you better sex?” Interested? Who wouldn’t be? Of course, this imaginary drug is actually — you guessed it — purpose. Clearly a wise choice.  So what kind of purpose are we talking about? A grand passion that lasts a lifetime or a sudden impulse to sneak into someone’s house to snack on dogfood and cookies? While we all act in self-interest, Archer’s research found those who also have some transcendent purpose tend to interact with the world in a richer, more fulfilling way. I'm lucky that living in Seville, my Home 2.0, and traveling the world creates so many opportunities to connect with people and learn about life. On my journeys, often I have an ostensible purpose, such as sampling traditional recipes for The Great Mediterranean Comfort Food Tour, and the deeper underlying goal of creating opportunities to chat with grandmothers willing to share their hard-won wisdom and young entrepreneurs exploring their dreams.  Chef Michail shows us how he prepares a delicious Corfu Pastitsada with Free-Range Rooster and Pasta on a rooftop terrace in Athens, 2019. I have become addicted to being thunderstruck, a trait I share with many travel writers. Douglas Adams, best known for The Hitchhiker’s Guide to the Galaxy, expressed this in his own wry way in his travel memoir about endangered species, Last Chance to See. “Some fish were jumping up the beach and into the tree,” he wrote, “which struck me as an odd thing for a fish to do, but I tried not to be judgmental about it. I was feeling pretty raw about my own species, and not much inclined to raise a quizzical eyebrow at others.” I learned these tree-climbing fish, known as mudskippers, are at risk because their coastal habitats are disappearing fast. But because they are (and I say this lovingly) among the least attractive species on earth, and have a lackluster name to boot, efforts to save them aren’t attracting much attention.  Hard to understand why the mudskipper has failed to become a media darling. I haven’t managed to see a mudskipper yet, but on our honeymoon in Costa Rica I encountered its cousin the Jesus lizard, which walks on water. When startled, the creature rears up on its hind legs and sprints across the surface of the nearest puddle or pond, its webbed feet catching air bubbles, its light weight making it possible to traverse distances up to 66 feet. Watching one in action all those years ago, I remember thinking, “You really have to love a world capable of producing creatures like that.”  The basilisk lizard, also known as the Jesus lizard, is a miracle of nature. Photo: Bence Mate / naturepl.com I still feel that way. Yes, in spite of everything that's happening right now. One of my overarching purposes in life is lifting the spirits of my readers, to remind us all of the persistence of joy, even in dark times. So here's one of the most uplifting wildlife pictures I’ve ever seen: a weasel riding on the back of a flying woodpecker in a London park. Is it real? The BBC and world press confirmed it, and as it dates back ten years, to a time before everyone had ready access to AI graphics, I’m going to say yeah, I believe it's genuine. How did it happen? “Green woodpeckers actually feed on the ground,” explained a BBC commentator. “The female lesser weasel weighs about the same as a Mars bar — but is as ferocious as a lion.”  The weasel pounced, the startled woodpecker took off, and Martin Le-May got the photograph of a lifetime. You can imagine her surprise when she leapt on her prey and the bird took flight. When amateur photographer Martin Le-May snapped his now-famous shot, he distracted the weasel just enough for the woodpecker to shake free and fly off. I like to picture that little weasel down at the pub afterwards, telling the one from Animal Control, “Oh, yeah? Well, wait till you hear what happened to me!”  HOME 2.0 This is the latest in my series of blog posts exploring what it takes to create a better life for yourself abroad — or at home, for that matter. See all posts in this series. WANT MORE? To subscribe, send me an email. [email protected] SUBSCRIBED BUT NOT GETTING POST ANNOUNCEMENTS? Check your spam folder. If you still can't find it, please let me know. GOING SOMEWHERE? Enter any destination or topic, such as packing light or road food, in the search box below. If I've written about it, you'll find it.  This may sound a little squirrelly, but hear me out. As you no doubt know, today is National Squirrel Appreciation Day. Yes, it has rolled back around already! Time to get out your squirrel-themed dinnerware and gather the kids to listen to classic tales of squirrelly derring-do. Like the one about Idaho’s heroic Joey, who leapt on a burglar who was trying to steal the household guns. “Damn thing kept attacking me and wouldn’t stop till I left,” said the suspect, who was soon apprehended by the cops; positive identification was easy thanks to all the little claw marks on his arms.  Joey has become a national celebrity. "Any squirrel would have done the same," he modestly told reporters. Incredibly, not everyone celebrates this uniquely American holiday. My sister-in-law dismisses these fluffy-tailed rodents as “rats with better PR.” But squirrels are amazing creatures. They can leap across a space ten times their body length. Arctic squirrels spend eight months a year in the longest and deepest hibernation of any animal. Their California cousins can survive fights with rattlesnakes (scientists are still trying to figure out how they metabolize the venom). Do squirrels deserve their own holiday? I say hell, yeah.  Thought I was kidding about the squirrel-themed dinnerware? Apparently some people go all out on this holiday. No, I'm not sure if Sophia is the squirrel or the householder. Photo: Rosabella Designs on Etsy Why not let squirrels have their day? By this time of year, the big annual festivities are (thankfully) behind us, leaving time to celebrate simpler joys. Today, for instance, is also International Sweat Pants Day, National Hugging Day, and National Grandma Day. So pull on some sloppy athletic pants and go hug your Nana — or the nearest squirrel. Your choice. This past week Rich and I celebrated National Shop for Travel Day, although to be honest I had no idea such a holiday existed, let alone that it fell on the second Tuesday in January. But when I happened across that fun fact online yesterday, I considered it a good omen. Clearly the Universe is supporting our intention (NOT a New Year’s Resolution) to travel more — and with even less baggage than usual. As my regular readers know, Rich is a die-hard fan of luggage-free travel. He’s never happier than when he’s strolling to the train station with nothing but a toothbrush, a passport, and a few odds and ends in his pockets, wearing sturdy outerwear and the world’s fastest-drying undergarments.  This is everything Rich brought along our first luggage-free trip, back in 2015. Going baggage-free is fun from time to time, but I generally like a few more creature comforts. (Call me a hedonist.) For road trips lasting weeks or months, we typically each take one small rollaboard, with mix-and-match clothes that will stand up to lots of washing. But for our current long-weekend road trips, we are going even more minimalist, sharing a single small suitcase, one that divides in half with zippered compartments to keep us sorted. Because how much do you really need for a couple of days without any social engagements beyond hanging out together?  Rich and I began considering ways to downsize our luggage following our January Ideas Club gathering, where the theme was “enough.” As you’ve no doubt observed, modern society pushes us toward a sense of scarcity in hopes of influencing our behavior, mostly our buying habits. We’re always being told that standards are rising and frankly, we’re not measuring up. Despite the fact that most people reading this blog have more than enough of life’s essentials — food, clothing, shelter, and heat, to name but a few — we’re told we should be as worried as one of our cave-dwelling ancestors who has just been chased out naked into the snow by a bear. No wonder 62% of Americans admit to overpacking. We modern humans may not have to dodge too many bears these days, but we are constantly chased by the expectation to compare ourselves to celebrities and 20-year-old influencers. And that requires massive amounts of clothing and grooming aids.  "There is no such thing as overpacking," wrote geekgirltravel on Instagram. She says she doesn't mind hauling that much stuff around to feel well dressed. You have to admire her stamina (and her hair). Luckily for me, I’m traveling with a man I’ve been married to for nearly forty years. He does not take me for granted, but I can’t say he’s always a keen observer of my wardrobe. Just the other day he glanced at the trousers I was wearing and asked, “Hey, are those new?” They were the oldest pair of pants I own, faithful companions on fifteen years of journeys around the globe. You can see why I don’t worry too much about satisfying his need for novelty in my attire. So what is enough stuff for a relaxed three-day, two-night road trip?  Everything I need tucks into half the suitcase, with room left over. The bag is an American Tourister two-wheeler, which I find maneuvers better on cobblestones. Basically I wear one outfit: pants (often those comfy old favorites), a warm sweater, a long-sleeved t-shirt, sneakers, puffy vest, long puffy coat, scarf, hat, and gloves. In my half of the suitcase I pack several long-sleeved t-shirts, socks, underwear, loose yoga pants, a pajama top, and furry slippers. I just bought a smaller toiletry kit for the bare necessities. That’s it! Rich packs even less. Which means there would be plenty of room for our devices (one laptop and two e-readers) in our common suitcase. But I prefer to keep those over my shoulder in a separate bag. On crowded trains we sometimes have to leave luggage in the common shelves by the exit, and why chance losing expensive electronics? This way, in the unlikely event someone ever swiped our suitcase, they would be deeply disappointed at the meager pickings, and it would be easy enough for us to replace our stuff. Now, some readers may be wondering why, if I am in southern Spain, I need a puffy vest, puffy coat, heavy scarf, hat, and gloves. Shouldn’t I be basking in warm sunshine, here in my Home 2.0? Yes, I should. But we’re experiencing an unusually cold winter, with temperatures often hitting freezing and lots of fog and rain. If you’re coming here in the next week or so, pack for London, not Seville.  Dressed for chilly weather in Córdoba The upside of this kind of bad weather, which I’ve now experienced in Cádiz and Córdoba as well as Seville, is that it helps me catch up on my sleep. I get up late in the morning and take long afternoon siestas, made all the more blissful by the sound of rain on the windows. I can see why many anthropologists are now coming around to the idea that proto-humans used to hibernate. That theory sprang from discoveries in northern Spain’s Sima de los Huesos (Pit of Bones), one of the world’s most important fossil sites. Skeletons from 430,000 years ago included adolescents with marks of a particular kind of malnutrition associated with going into hibernation without sufficient fat reserves. The adults apparently did just fine.  And if Sigourney Weaver and her spaceship crew are anything to go by, humans will be hibernating successfully in the future, too. Our furry friends in the arctic ground squirrel community get a solid eight months of sleep a year, which strikes me as a trifle excessive. But I can see the appeal of a long, deep sleep. Imagine being snug underground with a tummy full of fat and nowhere to go, nothing to do, no headlines to read. I don’t need to tell you this has been a tough winter — in many ways that have nothing to do with the weather. “These are the times that try men’s souls,” said patriot Thomas Paine. “Tyranny, like hell, is not easily conquered.” So what can we do? “In winter,” wrote Game of Thrones author George R.R. Martin, “we must protect one another, keep each other warm, share our strengths.” And remind each other that spring always comes.  Hibernating ground squirrels. I want to take a moment to thank all those who reached out to us after the terrible train crash in Córdoba on January 18. Thankfully, Rich and I are fine, although horrified at the tragedy that has rocked Spain. We’re also a bit shaken to think we were riding those same trains on those same railway tracks just one week earlier. We are counting our lucky stars. HOME 2.0 This is the latest in my series of blog posts exploring what it takes to create a better life for yourself abroad — or at home, for that matter. See all posts in this series. MORE ON HOW TO REDUCE LUGGAGE OR GO WITHOUT PACK LIGHT QUICK & EASY TIPS FOR TRAVELING EVERYWHERE WITH EXACTLY THE RIGHT STUFF WANT MORE? To subscribe, send me an email. [email protected] SUBSCRIBED BUT NOT GETTING POST ANNOUNCEMENTS? Check your spam folder. If you still can't find it, please let me know. GOING SOMEWHERE? Enter any destination or topic, such as packing light or road food, in the search box below. If I've written about it, you'll find it.  This weekend in Córdoba I don’t know why I bothered with the twelve grapes and red underwear on New Year’s Eve, because it has now become clear to me that the real luck around here is to be acquired in Córdoba. I’m just back from a long weekend in that city — a mere 75 miles from my Home 2.0 in Seville but light-years ahead of us in terms of opportunities to entice good fortune into our lives. And couldn’t we all use some of that right now? Naturally, I visited every luck-luring locale mentioned in the old legends. And although it wasn’t even on my wish list, right away I got a delightful little gift from the Universe. As my regular readers know, I love discovering offbeat words I can play with, words like gobsmacked and cattywampus (so emblematic of our times!) and recombobulated (a state I hope we’ll someday experience collectively). This weekend’s delectable new word is snicket. Of course I’m familiar with Lemony Snicket, author of A Series of Unfortunate Events, but I always assumed it was a made-up word blending snicker and snippet.  But this weekend, when the term cropped up in the novel Out of Time, I learned snicket means a narrow passageway between walls or fences. One online dictionary added helpfully that synonyms include ginnel, vennel, wynd, and twitten. My cup ranneth over, indeed. I wasted no time putting my new word to use. “Rich, Córdoba has a snicket I’d like to visit. It’s called the Calleja Pañuelo — Handkerchief Alley. That’s how narrow it is.” We found it and discovered the skinniest part was just 20 inches, the width of the traditional cravat that adorned the necks of horseback-riding gentlemen of yesteryear.  Today's gentlemen favor somewhat more casual attire. Sadly, the oldest good luck source in town vanished millennia ago: Lake of the Tendillas, home of a wish-granting nymph. She was generous to a fault, oldtimers said, but selfish supplicants wanting wickedness would disappear into her waters forever. Today the spot is marked by a fountain, and I like to think she simply retired and downsized to more compact urban lodgings. On the off chance she was still listening, I went to pay my respects and mention a few requests. The town’s most famous wishing spot is on the outer wall of its most illustrious building, the Mezquita. This was the Great Mosque built in 785 when Abd al-Rahman I founded the Islamic Emirate of Córdoba and wanted to create a mosque so magnificent people would talk about it until the end of time. And he succeeded. The interior was simple perfection, a vast forest of columns that were ancient even then, stretching as far as the eye could see, enlivened with striped arches that were almost playful. Everyone who saw it gasped in wonder.  Repurposed Visigoth and Roman pillars, somewhere between 850 and 1250 of them, created a vast, non-hierarchical space for prayer. When the city fell to the Christians in 1236, a chapel was installed but the mosque remained more or less intact. Then in 1528, despite the furious opposition of everyone in Cordoba except the scheming local bishop, King Charles V ordered the center of the Mezquita to be hollowed out and turned into a massive Catholic cathedral. It’s horrifying what treasures some of those ignorant old despots would tear down in order to build a monument to their own ego. (Thank heavens we are far too enlightened to indulge in that kind of barbaric foolishness today.) Spanish amigos told me when Charles V finally saw the cathedral and realized what had been lost, he wept, saying, “They have taken something unique in all the world and destroyed it to build something you can find in any city.”  You can see where the cathedral was stuck into the center of the mosque. In our era, a further attempt was made to erase even more of the mosque. Church officials began quietly deleting references to the Moorish past from the site’s literature and signage. When Google Maps changed its designation from Cordoba Mosque to Cordoba Cathedral, that was the last straw. Irate citizens and local authorities raised such a ruckus that Google Maps quickly re-labeled it Cordoba Mosque. When I visited, the Moorish origins featured prominently in all the signage and materials I saw. Meanwhile, on one of the Mezquita's outside walls, a section of limestone has crumbled away, revealing the star-shaped fossil of a sea urchin. Naturally (or possibly launched by wily marketing people centuries ago) legends sprang up about this curiosity. Now viewed as an amulet, the Estrella de los Deseos or Star of Wishes, is supposed to make your dreams come true; all you have to do is touch it. As a modern, rational woman I know just how much faith to put in such allegedly lucky charms, but hey, I figured it couldn’t hurt. I couldn’t find any record of actual results produced by the Star of Wishes, but nearby, halfway across the old Roman bridge, stands one emblem of good luck with a solid track record: San Rafael. He’s the city’s Guardian Angel, credited with saving the populace from the plague in 1650, and his images, known as “triumphs,” are scattered all over town.  The Archangel San Rafael, 1651, watches over pedestrians on the old Roman bridge in Córdoba. Photo: Mariajo V. on TripAdvisor San Rafael is the perfect emblem for Córdoba, because he is honored across Judaism, Christianity, and Islam, religions that famously managed to co-exist peacefully for centuries in “the City of Three Cultures.” Yes, my friends, it is possible. During the city’s Islamic era (711 to 1031) Córdoba prided itself on being a center of enlightenment and learning, attracting scholars, scientists, philosophers, artists, and architects of every nation and creed. They had this wacky idea that studying the universe, learning how to think logically, and applying human intelligence to solving our most persistent problems might save our bacon someday. And who knows, maybe it will. Of course, human nature being what it is, there were plenty of egos, biases, and injustices at work, and not everyone flourished in Córdoba. For instance, in the 11th century residents were pressured to convert, causing the Jewish family of ten-year-old Maimonides to leave the city. Living in Morocco, Jerusalem, and Egypt, he picked up a wealth of esoteric knowledge. Maimonides became a rabbi, the most influential Torah scholar of the era, and author of many books including the marvelously titled Guide for the Perplexed that seeks common ground for scientific and spiritual principles.  Notice how shiny the tip of his beard is; people love to visit this statue, which stands in downtown Córdoba, and rub it for luck. When Córdoba put up a statue to him, it soon became another good-fortune charm, which according to scholars who know such things, would have appalled the ultra-rational Maimonides. Yep, I visited him too. And what was I asking for, at all these magical places? Well, I don’t want to risk jinxing things by revealing full details, so I will just say that if you have been at all worried about the state of the world lately, I’ve enlisted the most powerful thinker, angel, nymph, and fossilized sea urchin available, and they’re now working on the case. You’re welcome.  HOME 2.0 This is the latest in my series of blog posts exploring what it takes to create a better life for yourself abroad — or at home, for that matter. See all posts in this series. WANT MORE? To subscribe, send me an email. [email protected] SUBSCRIBED BUT NOT GETTING POST ANNOUNCEMENTS? Check your spam folder. If you still can't find it, please let me know. GOING SOMEWHERE? Enter any destination or topic, such as packing light or road food, in the search box below. If I've written about it, you'll find it.  Merrymakers pose for pictures in front of the Cathedral of the Holy Cross over the Waters in Cádiz, Spain, during the final days of 2025. “I’ve met someone,” confided my friend, a widower in his 80s with a twinkle in his eye. “What’s she like?” I asked, hoping she wasn’t 20-something with expensive tastes. “How old is she?” “My age. And one of the things I like about her? She eats dessert first.” “Sounds like a keeper.” She was. They had a lovely late-life romance, made all the more fun because they decided not to marry; they didn’t want to give up the wicked pleasure of scandalizing their kids and grandkids. I admired her attitude toward life, embodying Erma Bombeck’s famous advice: “Seize the moment. Remember all those women on the Titanic who waved off the dessert cart.” This week, nearly half of all Americans made resolutions to seize the moment and become healthier, happier, thinner, richer, and blessed with a more thrilling love life. Yep, another stunning triumph of hope over experience. Studies show that 60% to 80% of all resolutions will be in the dumpster by the end of this month.  As for me, I’m not making any resolutions, I’m just wallowing in a brief moment of gratitude that I somehow survived the perfect storm known as 2025. “Life is a hurricane, and we board up to save what we can and bow low to the earth to crouch in that small space above the dirt where the wind will not reach,” wrote novelist Jesmyn Ward. “We love each other fiercely, while we live and after we die. We survive.” Yes, 2025 was a Category Five hurricane, and hunkering down until it passed qualifies as a triumph. “When you come out of the storm,” says author Haruki Murakami, “you won’t be the same person who walked in. That’s what this storm’s all about.” Like 2020, this year has marked us all. But hey, any year you can walk away from…  "So much for 2025. What do you think 2026 is going to be like?" If I sound cynical, I’m right on trend. “Cynicism is vastly on the rise,” says Jamil Zaki, the director of the Stanford Social Neuroscience Lab, in a NY Times article about finding hope in 2026. Studies show hope really helps; it’s is a major predictor of well-being, affecting our health, longevity, even how tall we grow. So how can we get ahold of more of this hope stuff? One of Zaki’s top tips: “Replace cynicism with skepticism.” He suggests that instead of automatically assuming 2026 will turn out to be a disaster of biblical proportions, we should try to believe that it only might turn out to be a disaster of biblical proportions. Really? This is our ray of light in the darkness? We only might be doomed?  Graffiti I spotted in Cådiz says, "Health and luck." Followed by a little "OK?" that to me suggests, "But only if it's not too much trouble for you, God!" Just how inauspicious is this year? “Nostradamus’ predictions for 2026 include rivers of blood, plague of bees, and death by lightning,” says a NY Post headline. When I read this aloud to Rich, he just laughed. His attitude is more like author Nancy Mitford, who said, “Life is sometimes sad and often dull, but there are currents in the cake, and here is one of them.” Rich and I have lots of currents in our cake these days, including a promise to ourselves (NOT a resolution) to do a bit more traveling. Over several long Sunday lunches, we discussed how great it feels to be part of our beloved Home 2.0 in Seville but agreed we shouldn’t get so comfortable that we stop exploring the wider world. So we hopped a train south to Cádiz, one of Europe’s oldest continuously inhabited cities. To be in its streets felt like walking through history. Pre-history, even. At the Cádiz Museum, I gazed in awe at 100,000-year-old arrowheads and 250,000-year-old bashing stones. But those were new tech compared to the Acheulean hand axes.  600,000-year-old Acheulean hand axes found in Cadiz They look like they’d be perfect for cutting, chopping, and mashing, but archaeologist have learned you can’t really grip one without endangering your fingers. Despite this pesky drawback, untold millions were painstakingly crafted and carried all over the planet for 1.5 million years. They are the most enduring tool in human history and nobody can figure out why. The ones found in Cádiz were fashioned 600,000 years ago, when our ancestors were just developing cumulative culture, the uniquely human ability to build on past innovations. One theory suggests the hand axes were created by men solely to show off prowess and attract mates, a skill that is still a work in progress today. The museum was founded to house a Phoenician fellow’s sarcophagus unearthed in Cádiz in 1887. A century later a female sarcophagus turned up and everyone got misty-eyed over reuniting the couple. But then they learned the female’s coffin was 70 years older than the male’s and that the body inside it was, in fact, a robust middle-aged guy. A romance? A bromance? Who knows?  Mystery surrounds these 2500-year-old Phoenician sarcophagi in the Cádiz Museum. Cádiz is famously the friendliest city in Spain, and we were welcomed everywhere. In the medieval quarter, we came upon a crowd gathered around a fire, dancing and singing to the beat of a cajón (box drum). Mostly it was flamenco, popular there since the 15th century, but as a nod to the season, there were villancicos (carols), too. People made room for me in the circle and I joined in on Los Peces en el Río (The Fish in the River). Years ago I asked amigos about this villancico; did people think fish were present at the nativity of Jesus? They explained the song’s popularity rests on the line, “Beben y beben and vuelven a beber,” (“They drink and drink and go back and drink some more”) which listeners often take as an invitation to open another bottle.  People from the crowd jumped into the middle of the circle to dance flamenco by the fire. The Spanish are not shy about enjoying themselves. In 1912, when the lavish Café Royalty opened, it became the city’s hallmark of splendid excess. The moment I stepped inside, I realized it was the closest I’d ever get to eating in the Titanic dining room, lost at sea that very same year. Rich and I dined at Café Royalty with friends who agreed it would be a crime to wave away the dessert cart. We ordered picatostes, literally “croutons,” but in this case meaning thick, sweet bread toasted to golden crunchiness with an interior almost as soft as custard. Are you drooling yet? That was hands-down the best dessert, but my favorite meal of the trip was in La Isleta de la Viña, a cozy restaurant filled with families and bullía (joyful noise). Someone had written on the wall “Compartir es vivir” (“To share is to live”). In Cádiz, you’re all in this together. “Cádiz is a city of magic, like Cracow or Dublin, to set the mind on fire at a turn of a corner,” wrote British travel writer Honor Tracy. “The eye is continually fed, the imagination stirred, by a train of spectacles as charming as if they had been contrived.” Cádiz does more than dazzle; it embraces visitors. Let’s hope Nostradamus is wrong about 2026 being full of bees, blood, and bolts of lightning. But just in case, I’m keeping these warm memories close to give me comfort until the next storm passes.  One of my favorite memories of Cádiz is Rich saying, "Look! This is it! The arc of human achievement. From the hand axes to my cell phone." HOME 2.0 This is the latest in my series of blog posts exploring what it takes to create a better life for yourself abroad — or at home, for that matter. See all posts in this series. WANT MORE? To subscribe, send me an email. [email protected] SUBSCRIBED BUT NOT GETTING POST ANNOUNCEMENTS? Check your spam folder. If you still can't find it, please let me know. GOING SOMEWHERE? Enter any destination or topic, such as packing light or road food, in the search box below. If I've written about it, you'll find it.  These are so much more than just a few random puzzle pieces... If you’re like me, you’ve been making a list — and checking it twice — of all the people who really ticked you off this year. High on my tally is the knucklehead — for whom I’m sure there’s a special place reserved in hell — who designed the 1000-piece jigsaw puzzle Rich and I began in November. The Spanish call them rompecabezas — head-busters — and they aren’t kidding. This particular one was formed of pieces so clumsily cut it was impossible to be sure if they were meant to fit together. I know that sounds like an excuse, but hey, we’re veteran puzzlers; we know shoddy work when we stub our toes on it. Rich and I soldiered on for a month until what had started as a lighthearted pastime had become a grim slog. I realized we were endlessly redoing the same sections to try different ill-fitting options of near-identical pieces in indistinguishable earth tones and lavender sky. That’s when I had my brilliant idea. “What say we throw the damn thing away?”  If we had a fireplace, this might have been an even more satisfying option. Joyfully, we tore the puzzle apart, tossed the pieces back in the box, carried the box down to the recycling bin, and pitched it in. A glorious sense of freedom washed over me. We were done with that puzzle forever. But the puzzle wasn’t done with us. Three pieces had somehow escaped the roundup and were hiding out in dark corners of the floor, like cockroaches. I started to toss them out, then I thought, "No, wait! I could use these." One of our small annual rituals is coming up with an ornament symbolizing the year. A matador’s jacket celebrating our move to Seville. A locomotive commemorating a long railway journey. A paint brush marking the year Rich (who loathes painting) helped me re-do the accent wall in my office.  I thought — hoping it wasn’t blasphemy to paraphrase the Bible — “Greater love hath no man than this, that he picks up a paint brush for his wife.” We attached the surviving puzzle pieces to Reepicheep, a woolen mouse named after the Narnia character. He must have joined us during the early years in our Home 2.0, because his string attaches to the tree with a paper clip, our solution in the days before Seville celebrated the holidays with trees involving ornaments and wire hooks. Reepicheep now holds our memories of that fiendish puzzle in his paws and will remind us, year after year, of the importance of letting things go. Small rituals like this are a way of connecting to the turning points of the year and to significant little moments that might otherwise pass unnoticed in the headlong rush of our days. They provide “a buffer against the strain and uncertainty of modern life,” according to The Science of Hedonistic Consumption (a publication that sounds totally trustworthy to me). It’s easy to get stuck maintaining rituals that have outlived their usefulness; the trick is learning when to let them go.  Could it be time to give Frosty and Santa a rest? Every December I give thanks that I am no longer responsible for the vast amount of gift-shopping and card-sending I’d cheerfully undertaken decades ago in Ohio. Back then I designed my own cards and had them printed on actual tree-sourced paper, sending out hundreds of them, each with a handwritten note and newsletter. Every card I mailed felt, as a Guardian article put it, like “a long-distance hug.” Today printed holiday cards are heading towards extinction. Twenty-five years ago Americans sent three billion a year; it’s now one billion and dropping fast. Most of us find it easier and more eco-friendly to convey greetings online, and with nearly 75% of the nation on social media, we all know far too much about each other already, so who needs annual newsletters?  Christmas cards sent to us in Spain in 2018. Number received this year? One. While I enjoy receiving “long-distance hugs,” not sending paper cards feels tremendously liberating. It got me thinking about how much of life is a balancing act between personal preferences and community norms — which wound up being the theme for December’s Ideas Club. “Can anyone be truly free?” our invitation asked. “Living in a society and enjoying its benefits requires conforming to its norms and responsibilities — which curtails your freedom. If you ignore societal norms and responsibilities in favor of personal preferences or independence, does that make you selfish, unreliable, or worse? Do you have an obligation to work for the common good — or is it enough simply to do no harm?” To keep the conversation lively, we presented various moral dilemmas such as Mama’s Kidney, which explored how far you would go to obtain a life-saving organ for a family member. Would you sell your house? Impoverish your family? Commit a robbery? Buy an organ on the international black market and ask your doctor to install it?  Luckily I’ve never been faced with those kinds of choices. But in December of 2021, Rich and I did find out how far we would go to save a holiday lunch. At that point Seville had lifted most of its Covid restrictions but strongly urged everyone to test before attending parties. Easier said than done. There was a temporary shortage of test kits, and we were far from certain that all 17 of the guests coming to lunch on December 25 would be able to get one. Rich and I scoured the city and finally found a pharmacy that had received a small shipment. To ensure fairness, they would only sell five to each customer. We bought our five and went home to contemplate our options. “I’ve got it!” I said. “Go back to that pharmacy.” “But they’ll recognize me.” “Not if you’re in disguise.”  Rich McCann, master of disguise Feeling like Q outfitting James Bond for a mission, I helped him don an old jacket, his spare glasses, my red scarf, and a baseball cap in place of his trademark fedora. The Covid mask helped, too. Rich walked out of that pharmacy with five more tests and the warm glow that comes with carrying out a successful caper. As it turned out, all our guests acquired their own Covid tests, and nobody (so far as we know) communicated or contracted any diseases at our fiesta. Bullet successfully dodged! Last year we weren’t quite so lucky. Rich and I both got Covid and had to cancel the annual feast. But we couldn’t cancel the pre-ordered turkey, a robust seven kilos (15.43 pounds). We had a quietly jolly meal under the tree telling stories of past holidays and thinking up creative uses for leftovers. The turkey-apple stir-fry has become a family favorite.  Not the grand feast we usually hold, but December 25, 2024 was merry and bright nonetheless. Starting 2025 with a case of Covid was a reminder of just how little we can actually control in our lives. Often the best we can do is manage how we respond to events. So I am choosing to feel hopeful about 2026. Not everyone is equally optimistic. When I looked online for professional predictions, the first ones I saw were from Baba Vanga, a blind Bulgarian seer who passed to the Great Beyond in 1996 but still has a worldwide following. She left behind predictions that in 2026 we’d see massive natural disasters, another global pandemic, and a visit from extraterrestrials. So it’s shaping up to be another lively year. But if I can get through it without another head-busting puzzle from hell, I’ll count myself very lucky indeed.  Happy holidays, everyone, and best of luck in 2026!
I'm taking a few weeks off from this blog. See you in January.  How T-Rex might look today if that asteroid had deviated a teeny, tiny bit from its trajectory. Image: Etsy Are you finding the Universe particularly random these days? I certainly am. And so is a woman from Alicante, Spain, who made headlines this week for getting fired because (and I am not making this up) she came into work early. The young woman repeatedly showed up for her delivery job at 6:45 or 7:00 am instead of the stipulated 7:30. I know, right? We can’t have that kind of maverick behavior! Managers warned her she was undermining the employee-employer relationship. (Translation: You’re making the rest of us look bad.) She refused to change her ways, got fired, and sued the company. The court sided with her bosses, saying she was guilty of “disloyalty, breach of trust, and disobedience.” Wow, I didn’t see that coming. But then, we rarely know when disaster is about to overtake us. “Some 66 million years ago,” wrote university professor Mark Robert Rank in his book The Random Factor, “an asteroid hit the Earth at precisely the right angle and location to annihilate the dinosaurs, paving the path for our ascendency. Had there been as little as a 10-mile difference in its path of entry, we would not be here today and the dinosaurs would still be roaming the land.”  OK, so that one worked out in our favor — although obviously a bit less optimally for the dinosaur community. Looking back over history, we see how often the fate of humanity is determined by sheer chance. For instance, what if the Nina, the Pinta, and the Santa Maria had been lost at sea? Crossing 6000 miles of storm-tossed Atlantic in sailing ships just 50 to 60 feet in length, anything could have happened. Hurricanes. Shipwreck. Sea monsters. Dragons. Had those ships disappeared, everyone back in Europe would have said, “Yep. Told you nothing would come of it. A fool’s errand!” The Caribbean’s indigenous populations would likely have been left in peace for at least a few decades. Portugal would have totally dominated the high seas. Eventually they would have sailed to the New World, where, with luck, they’d have focused on trade, as they’d done in India and China, rather than colonization. And we might all be speaking Portuguese right now. It's easy to get lost in these kinds of speculations — what philosophers like to call “counterfactuals” to make them sound more respectable than the wild fantasies they really are. This week I was indulging in all sorts of counterfactuals as I stood looking at the first known map of the New World.  Juan de la Cosa's famous mappa mundi, drawn in 1500. Perfectly accurate? No. But you can pick out Africa, Spain, Italy, the Caribbean islands where they landed, and beyond them the Gulf of Whatever-It’s-Called-Now. I happened across this map in the Spanish town where it was created: El Puerto de Santa Maria, known to its friends as El Puerto (the Port). There, in 1492, Columbus met the cartographer Juan de la Cosa, owner and master of the Santa Maria, who agreed to commit his ship, his navigational skills, and his reputation to the Italian’s mad enterprise. De la Cosa would make seven voyages to the New World before he was killed by a poisoned arrow in a battle with indigenous peoples in what’s now Colombia. But early on, in the off-season of 1500, he sat down at his desk in El Puerto to lay out the limits of the Atlantic Ocean. Fast forward to this week, when Rich and I made an impulsive day-trip to El Puerto and came upon the map in a dark corner of the Castle of San Marcos.  El Puerto's Castillo de San Marco, parts of which date back 2000 years. Photo: Guia de Cádiz The map was a reproduction, but it was a stunning sight nonetheless. This was the start of it all, the inspiration for the 100 million people who, over the next 525 years, would choose America as their Home 2.0. My own ancestors made this same Atlantic crossing on wooden sailing ships launched from Ireland, England, Germany, and who knows where else. Like that asteroid 66 million years ago, that massive migration spelled disaster for some and a safer future for others.  Irish immigrants arriving in New York in the mid-1800s. Like my people, they got there ahead of the Statue of Liberty and before Ellis Island was established. The past seems very present in El Puerto. There, 3000 years ago, the Phoenicians took advantage of the ocean breezes and chalky soil to grow grapes for wine. When the Moors occupied the region in 711, they introduced the art of distillation, which led to fortified wines and the region’s famous sherries, viewed by Medieval Europe as the world’s finest vintages. Many bottles found their way onto the Santa Maria for her voyage into history. Rich and I promised ourselves some El Puerto sherry later, but we began the outing with coffee in an old café near the downtown farmer’s market. The place was jammed with families and clusters of neighbors showing off their grandkids and leaning into chats with people they’d clearly known for the better part of a century.  A café in downtown El Puerto de Santa Maria on a Friday morning Rich leaned over and whispered, “It’s like a Fellini film.” I knew what he meant. These were not bodies honed in a gymnasium, skin smoothed to perfection with lotions and Botox, hair shiny with this year’s trendiest tints. There was something of the baroque earthiness of Fellini’s characters and the faces of townspeople in medieval paintings. Fortified by the cheery atmosphere and strong espresso, we spent hours exploring the market, city streets, the church of the Slaves of Sacred Heart, and the castle. When we’d worked up sufficient appetite, we settled into a restaurant on Calle Misericordia (Mercy Street) for lunch. One of the highlights was a dish of migas, day-old bread crumbs sauteed in olive oil with slivers of chorizo, a holdover from post-Civil War scarcity, when stale bread was way too precious to consider throwing away. Migas are less popular in these somewhat more prosperous times, but they are true comfort food. And they always remind me to count my blessings. Because as so many in the world are discovering these days, you never know when lean times will come again.  Migas were created by shepherds and are still often prepared over an open fire or hot coals. As you’ve no doubt noticed, 2025 has been as random and chaotic as a stormy sea, and even the most savvy navigators are worried about whether or not they’ll land safely on the far shore. “The lack of control that comes with random acts can be frightening, knowing that the ‘bell may toll for us’ next,” wrote author Bob McKinnon. “But it can also expand our gratitude for what we have and the good fortune that comes with just being alive and healthy. “The recognition of randomness ensures that we do not take the good things in life for granted, and it allows us to understand the precarious nature of good fortune. Even for those currently less fortunate, it can be cause for appreciating the small things in life and hoping that the winds of chance may yet blow your way.” How have the winds of chance treated you lately? Care to share any examples of luck in your life?  Here's one example of my good luck: at the end of our day in El Puerto, I got to sample a local favorite, Osborne Bailén Oloroso Sherry. ¡Delicioso! HOME 2.0 This is the latest in my series of blog posts exploring what it takes to create a better life for yourself abroad — or at home, for that matter. See all posts in this series. DON'T MISS A SINGLE UPCOMING STORY! If you haven't already, take a moment to subscribe so I can let you know when I publish my weekly posts. Just send me an email and I'll take it from there. [email protected] SUBSCRIBED BUT NOT GETTING POST ANNOUNCEMENTS? Check your spam folder. If you still can't find it, please let me know. FOR FURTHER READING My bestselling travel memoirs & guides My newest book: My San Francisco If you haven't read My San Francisco yet, you can order it HERE. Already read this book? Please leave a review HERE. You can purchase a signed paperback edition, in person or online, at Rebound Bookstore in San Rafael, CA GOING SOMEWHERE? Enter any destination or topic, such as packing light or road food, in the search box below. If I've written about it, you'll find it. Every once in a while, our whimsical old Universe surprises me with a gift so lavish it leaves me breathless. This week it was a short film. Quality: horrible. Script: was there one? Acting: amateurish at best. But none of that mattered, because for the first time, I got to see my grandmother, Ramona Langley, in one of the Hollywood movies she starred in back in 1913.  Ramona Langley and Lee Moran in The Girl Ranchers, 1913. My generation has sporadically searched the Universal Studios archives for her work, but most of those old silent films crumbled to dust ages ago. This week my brother Mike discovered one of her movies on YouTube, posted by the National Film Preservation Foundation with this commentary: “The one-reel gender comedy The Girl Ranchers is part of a wave of stories, sweeping through American popular culture in the early 1910s, about intrepid girls who prove themselves on the land.… If the film is not, as ads claimed, ‘one continual scream of laughter,’ its amusing stylizations of male and female behavior make for a nicely escalating battle of the sexes.” My grandmother was nothing if not intrepid and eternally engaged in the battle of the sexes. What a hoot it was to see her at the age of twenty, taking over the Rough Neck Ranch, bossing cowhands, fighting a gun battle with Native American raiders, donning overalls, and quelling the rebellion over “a skirt” being in charge. All that in just 14 minutes! Plus romance!  As a kid, I learned a lot from my grandmother. She gave me dubious romantic advice (“It’s as easy to love a rich man as a poor man. Remember that!”), encouraged me to break the rules (“Let’s go get ice cream cones before dinner. Don’t tell your mother!”), and spoke of her time on the vaudeville stage and Hollywood’s earliest movie sets with such delight it left me with a lifetime love of creative endeavors. I was thinking about her long-ago career this week as Rich and I gathered with our Ideas Club to talk about the future of work. For those new to my blog, the Ideas Club is like a book club except that we discuss the hot topics of the day. Participants range from mid 30s to mid 80s; most are international friends who chose Seville as their Home 2.0. This month’s invitation asked, “How will the next generation make money in the new AI-shaped economy? Is Universal Basic Income an answer and/or is deeper societal change required? Are ‘good corporate citizens’ going to protect the public or bow to shareholders’ thirst for profits? (I think we all know the answer to that one.) As the old model of study, work, retirement gives way to constant flux and repeated upskilling, how can people plan for retirement?”  A week in advance, we sent links to articles and videos, and at the event we provided additional questions and fact sheets, including recent layoff statistics that made for chilling reading.  A friend sent me the statistics below, noting that the title’s bad grammar was reassuring in a way, as it suggests AI is still in the bumbling stage, not quite ready for total world domination.  We also included World Economic Forum predictions that appeared on this blog three weeks ago. Clearly the Forum needs a better crystal ball, because shortly after they announced that delivery drivers will remain in hot demand through 2030, some 48,000 employees were laid off at UPS and Amazon. The conflicting statistics prompted a lively discussion of just how little anybody actually knows about what’s happening now, let alone what lies ahead. The one thing everyone agrees on is that advanced tech is poised to disrupt business on a global scale, just as soon as it irons out a few pesky little bugs. OK, so our future overlords need a little more time to come up to speed. But while AI isn’t taking our jobs (yet), it is taking our money. America’s jittery corporations are shedding workers like mad to redirect all available funds to AI development and infrastructure. Nobody wants to be left behind during the disruption that forecasters say is coming soon and will be as game-changing as the introduction of the Internet, electricity, or (wait for it) fire. Silicon Valley speaks of AI as a mega-huge, asteroid-hitting-the-dinosaurs level event. As you may recall from high school science, that asteroid killed 75% of life on earth. So how do you navigate that kind of upheaval? Most are betting their future that a smaller, leaner workforce will make them agile enough to pivot and leap on whatever opportunities AI is going to offer the survivors. Where does that leave all those pink-slipped workers? Again, nobody knows. Some of AI’s billionaire pioneers are easing their consciences by suggesting somebody (not them, of course, someone else) should provide every American with Universal Basic Income — say, $1000 a month. That would alleviate some layoff pain but cost three billion dollars and still leave ex-employees below the poverty line and scrambling for jobs.  Geoffrey Hinton, the Nobel-Prize winning “godfather of AI,” fears the technology he helped build could wipe out humanity. He suggests programming it with “maternal instincts” so it would nurture us instead. “That’s the only good outcome. If it’s not going to parent me, it’s going to replace me,” he said. So far, everyone is ignoring his advice. Setting aside the income question for a moment, we considered what laid-off workers would do with bountiful leisure. Half a million years ago, when our first big tech disruption — fire — made it easier to eat well with less effort, we got busy creating language and civilization (obviously still works in progress, but hey, give us time). To provide our lives with interest and meaning, humans need a purpose, even if it’s simply etching patterns into a rock.  77,000 years ago, somebody in South Africa carved these lines to convey ideas to other ancient humans. It's the oldest example of creativity and symbolic thinking ever found. Some call it "the first hashtag." The people at my table pointed out leisure is great for creative types like me, and it’s true. Give me a laptop and a few art supplies, and I could happily spend my days writing and painting. Come to think of it, that’s what I do now. For the non-artistic types, my companions suggested volunteering as a feel-good, endorphin-producing, health-enhancing, purpose-building pastime. “What if America organized itself around a four-day work week plus a fifth day when everyone had to do volunteer work?” someone suggested. Later another participant said, “Yes, but if you’re forced to volunteer, that’s obligatory unpaid work. Isn’t that slavery?” As you can see, we didn’t exactly solve the world’s problems, figure out how to tame the Wild West currently known as Silicon Valley, or corral our thoughts into cohesive conclusions. But like my grandmother, I’m donning my (metaphorical) overalls and throwing myself into the fray. And while the future we envisioned together at the Ideas Club may not be ‘one continual scream of laughter,’ you can bet your cowboy boots we’ll find it's an exciting time to be alive. THANKSGIVING BREAK I'm taking the next two weeks off from this blog to devote myself to turkey, art, and long-overdue home improvements. I'll be back after that with more stories. IN THE MEANTIME, YOU MIGHT ENJOY HOME 2.0 This is the latest in my series of blog posts exploring what it takes to create a better life for yourself abroad — or at home, for that matter. See all posts in this series. DON'T MISS A SINGLE UPCOMING STORY! If you haven't already, take a moment to subscribe so I can let you know when I publish my weekly posts. Just send me an email and I'll take it from there. [email protected] SUBSCRIBED BUT NOT GETTING POST ANNOUNCEMENTS? Check your spam folder. If you still can't find it, please let me know. FOR FURTHER READING My bestselling travel memoirs & guides Cozy Places to Eat in Seville My newest book: My San Francisco If you haven't read My San Francisco yet, you can order it HERE. Already read this book? Please leave a review HERE. You can purchase a signed paperback edition, in person or online, at Rebound Bookstore in San Rafael, CA GOING SOMEWHERE? Enter any destination or topic, such as packing light or road food, in the search box below. If I've written about it, you'll find it.  Some days feeling discombobulated is my default state. So I arrived at my Spanish dentist’s office, sat down in the waiting room, pulled out my phone, and discovered the screen was now entirely in Sanskrit. (Sigh.) Clearly this was going to be One of Those Days. Or as my phone would put it, तेषाम् दिनेषु एकः. Apparently the newly installed operating system had left my iPhone feeling wild and free and ready to embrace all sorts of thrilling new possibilities. Over the next few hours it greeted me in Japanese, French, Russian, and Spanish before it gave up and settled down to boring old English. Whew! I felt navigating the world in English and Spanish was complicated enough without throwing Japanese or Sanskrit into the mix. Living in a foreign language, even one you speak reasonably well, lends mystery and excitement to the most mundane activities. Is the hygienist chatting about the weather to put me at ease or suggesting I might like orthodonture or a root canal in addition to today’s teeth cleaning? I have learned to be very careful about nodding. However, when she asked me about my sensitive gums and whether I’d like anestesia for the worst parts, I was sure she meant the mild numbing cream her colleague had used in the past, so I said sí.  Moments later a dentist appeared and shot me up with two whopping doses of Novocain, one on each side of my jaw. I was thrilled at the painlessness of the next twenty minutes. And then it was over and I was horrified to discover that my mouth was no longer under my control. In fact, parts of my lips seemed to be missing altogether, and I could no longer form words, let alone sentences, in any language. “Drink water, it will make the anesthesia wear off more quickly,” the hygienist kindly advised (in Spanish, of course), handing me a cup of agua. Drink? Was she insane? I made an effort, but it was hard going, as I had to support my lower lip with three fingers and a wad of tissue. I congratulated myself for not drooling on the floor. And any time you find yourself thinking that …  The ability to swallow beverages is one of those things it's easy to take for granted until you lose it. I will spare you a description of the indignities I suffered an hour later when I attempted an espresso at a café; everyone kindly turned away and pretended nothing untoward was happening. And you don't want the gruesome details about the restorative piece of chocolate I slipped between my slack lips, only to have it turn to sludge and start leaking out of both corners of my mouth. Later I managed to consume a small amount of lunch without biting off my tongue, so obviously I was pretty proud of myself. Yes, that’s how low the bar was that day. My point is that for many hours there was nothing I could do but embrace the chaos. And if there’s one thing I’ve learned from living abroad in my Home 2.0, it’s how to accept the Buddhist belief that chaos is the default state of the universe and there is precious little we can do about it. And yet, like fish insisting they can control the ocean, we keep making plans and giving God a good chuckle.  We humans cling with equal determination to another persistent illusion: isolation. “Nothing exists separately from anything else,” wrote the Buddhist master Thich Nhat Hahn. “We are all interconnected. By taking care of another person, you take care of yourself. By taking care of yourself, you take care of the other person. Happiness and safety are not individual matters.” Interconnection is the cornerstone of many communities, including mine in Seville. Sure, you can be a hermit here if you want; I’ve met a few. But building a new life for yourself as a stranger in a strange land, you quickly learn the value of knowing people who can pull you back from the brink before you stumble into the endless small pitfalls and pratfalls lying in wait for you. For instance, I just got back from buying a design-it-yourself armoire at Seville’s Ikea. Fellow expats warned me years ago that the Spanish word for drawers — cajónes — is perilously close to cojones, slang for testicles. I knew Ikea staffers would be too professional to fall on the floor shrieking with laughter if I flubbed the pronunciation. All the same, I memorized some phrases, such as ¿Cómo suele configurarse este armario? (How do people usually configure this armoire?) to help me tiptoe around the faux pas.  And as if I needed more of a challenge, I had to communicate with Ikea using the metric system. Expats know a lot about feeling clueless and helpless, and tend to be generous with information, advice, and the names of people who are enchufada — literally plugged in, that is, they have useful contacts. Such connections have saved my life, my sanity, and what’s left of my dignity on too many occasions to count. Without friends, where are we? Lately we’ve been hearing so much about the epidemic of isolation that I suppose it’s no wonder that some folks are finding unorthodox ways to forge bonds, including cozying up to non-human entities. “Falling in love with A.I. is no longer science fiction,” wrote Coralie Kraft in this week’s NY Times. “A recent study found that one in five American adults has had an intimate encounter with a chatbot; on Reddit, r/MyBoyfriendisAI has more than 85,000 members championing human-A.I. connections, with many sharing giddy recollections of the day their chatbot proposed marriage.” Here are a few images from the article. Worryingly, this comes on the heels of reports that we are in a sex recession. It started around the turn of the millennium: Americans, especially young people — even teens! — are less likely to engage in serious hanky-panky these days. Why? Theories abound. Technology is distracting their attention. Some object on religious grounds. Many still live with helicopter parents. Youngsters are raised to be risk adverse so they are avoiding driving, dating, and drinking alcohol. I know, right? Kids today — what a bunch of slackers! In Japan, a million young people known as hikikomori have chosen total isolation. Unable to cope with the world’s challenges, they’ve retreated into their rooms for six months to a lifetime. No doubt many turn to chatbots for comfort. And who are we to judge? Living in the modern world isn’t easy for any of us, and like the heroes of the old tales, we often find unexpected companions to help us along the way. But without genuine human relationships, what is the point of the journey?  “The greatest hazard of life,” said Dr. Leo Buscaglia, “is to risk nothing. The person who risks nothing does nothing, has nothing, is nothing. He may avoid suffering and sorrow, but he simply cannot learn, feel, change, grow, live, and love.” And I will add this: there are few joys sweeter than emerging from a horrible day. When the anesthetic wore off, and I stopped drooling and began forming whole sentences again, I felt like dancing down the street. I didn’t, because I figured I’d already given the neighbors enough to talk about. But inside I was turning cartwheels, doing the mambo, and singing the Hallelujah chorus. And aren’t those the very moments that make life worth living?  Bird dancing for joy. Photo: David Rice / Nikon Comedy Wildlife Awards HOME 2.0 This is the latest in my series of blog posts exploring what it takes to create a better life for yourself abroad — or at home, for that matter. See all posts in this series. DON'T MISS A SINGLE UPCOMING STORY! If you haven't already, take a moment to subscribe so I can let you know when I publish my weekly posts. Just send me an email and I'll take it from there. [email protected] SUBSCRIBED BUT NOT GETTING POST ANNOUNCEMENTS? Check your spam folder. If you still can't find it, please let me know. 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